I have to say it. I hate it when I find the perfect passive candidate, who says they are selectively looking, who seemingly is perfect for the role I sought them out for, who said they were mutually excited to chat… falls off the face of the planet. I get it, though. I really do. You may have spoken too soon, or now your boss loves you, or what if your boss finds out you’re interviewing! I understand completely. But, if you’ve changed your mind about your job search, just tell me up front and honestly.
“It’s not you, it’s me.”
You have to treat a job search like a relationship. You don’t know what bridges you are burning, so keep everything nice and respectful. You wouldn’t dump your girlfriend by completely ignoring her for a few weeks, right?
Don’t answer that.
Whatever you do, be respectful of the recruiter’s time, and it will pay off in the end. The recruiter at Company A (that you’re not so excited about) may end up being the recruiter for Company B (your dream job) some day. We don’t forget names. We don’t forget faces.
We will forgive you if you say our company isn’t a right fit for you. But, tell us that it isn’t the right fit for you.