Friends, we have all been there. The wonderful world of dating! Whether you are still courting your neighbor, flirting with every cute girl that walks into your office space, spending your time with your one-and-only (for now), or fully committed to Prince Charming… we have all “been there”. The trials and tribulations of dating teaches us so many things in life.
… Like how to job search!
What?! Seriously, Lianne? Yes! Let me explain.
PART 1: Finding the “one”
- Setting standards. As in dating, we need to know what we want. If you have no direction, how will you ever find Mr. Right? Take your standards and apply them to your job search. What are you looking for? What excites you? What is an absolute deal-breaker? What are you willing to compromise on? Do you have your heart set on anything?
- First impressions matter. Ask anyone about what they first noticed about their partner? For fun, I asked my sister’s boyfriend and he responded, “How put together she was compared to everyone else”. Couldn’t have said it better. What is going to set you apart from everyone else? How will the employer remember you, and not the guy who interviewed before you?
- Desperation stinks. Who wants a stage-five clinger? Don’t be that person. Employers want to know they are hiring someone with options, not someone who will take the first thing thrown at them. They want to know they are investing in YOU and what you bring to the table.
- Be yourself. You want your date to like you for who you are… not who you pretend to be. In the same regard, employers want to hire YOU! Not who you are pretending to be. Facades only get you so far.
- Two way street. Dating is a two way street. Do you like me as much as I like you? No? Then it probably will not work out in the long run. A job hunt is the same way. While it may work in the short-term, the company has to be just as much a fit for you, as you are for them.
- No big egos. Big egos are a turn-off in almost any situation. Need I say more?
PART 2: Stages
- Courting. Flirting with disaster? Luring the forbidden? Whatever you call it, you need to find a way to make them notice you! How will you do that? Wearing a big sparkly hat at the restaurant? Maybe. In a job search situation, being an industry expert certainly sets you apart.
- Dating. This is essential. It is where people learn about each other, where they learn whether or not they like what is under the makeup, where they determine if you fit their “standards” (see Part 1, #1). Dating is like interviewing. It’s a time for both parties to ask questions, to probe and to prodder about things that they want to know about, to find out what they love and hate about you.
- The Close. After a few weeks, you know you’re 100% into her. You want to spend all your time with her, and no one else. You know you’ve found the match! Now what? Close to deal. Make her your “better half”. Just as in dating, when you find that company that is a mutual fit, find a way to seal the deal. Sell them on your ability to transform their organization.
What do you think now? Dating and job searching are pretty similar, huh? That’s what I thought.
I wish you all a life full of happiness together 🙂
As always… chin up, head down!